Whenever I switch on the TV or search on the net for news, I am often annoyed. Far from the turmoil in the North and as close as the epidemic among us, the problems seem to surround us. Complaining is my first reaction. The eminent psychologist Carl Rogers once has an observation. He observed that our first reaction to most new things is an evaluation or a judgment instead of understanding it. Though he was talking about empathy in a counseling room, it reminds me that I could do much more meaningful things instead of complaining. Complaining is always easier than making a decision. “Do everything without complaining and arguing so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people. – Philippians 2:14-15.” The verse let me know that I would be looked like a fool if my words were full of complaints and condemnations. Experience told me that I could usually see a little part of a huge iceberg. It is too unwise to judge without collecting sufficient information from different angles. Obviously, listening to different voices with humility is always the best way to collect such information. So before judging others, say something nice. If we can’t do that, then don’t judge anything at all. At least if we are quiet, we can listen more.