I know some Christians spend much time seeking the Lord’s will as if His will were never clear to us. But I wonder if it is the Lord’s unfathomable or our hypocrisy. The will in the Bible can’t be more straightforward: “God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin. Then, each of you will control his own body and live in holiness and honor – not in lustful passion like the pagans who do not know God and his ways. – 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5.” It is the Lord’s will that we should be holy in our relationships with different genders and, more bluntly, shun sexual immorality. We are living in a culture where adultery is habitual. Two reasons make me hesitate in blaming the sinfulness of sexual immorality. One is that I may have inadvertently hurt my close friends, even some spiritual seniors I respect; the other is my sinful nature. As Jesus said, I shun sexual immorality, but who can avoid lustful thoughts, so what is there to boast about? (Matthew 5:28). It doesn’t mean we can indulge our lustful desires. Indulgence (epithymia) means surrender; lust (pathos) means trouble of the heart. Many Christian leaders in the past have shown us enough that surrendering to the troubles of the heart always brings discredit and shame.